What is Masking?
Have you ever felt the need to put on a performance just to get through a social interaction? Or adapt your behaviour to better suit ‘social rules’? For many autistic individuals and adults with learning disabilities this is a daily survival strategy known as social masking.
While masking can help neurodivergent individuals navigate a world designed for neurotypical people, it comes at a massive personal cost. Understanding what masking is, why people do it, and the mental toll it takes is a vital step towards a spreading awareness for the invisible battles fought by neurodivergent communities.
1. What is Masking?
Masking (sometimes called camouflaging or compensating) is when a neurodivergent person consciously or unconsciously suppresses their natural traits, behaviors, and difficulties to copy the behavior of those around them.
It is a deeply ingrained coping mechanism used to fit in, look ‘less neurodivergent’, avoid bullying, find employment, or simply feel safe in social situations. While it may support temporary means, it can have a devastating impact on the mental health of communities that rely on it.
1. What does masking look like?
- Forcing Eye Contact: Actively forcing oneself to look people in the eye, even if it feels uncomfortable, painful, or distracting.
- Rehearsing: Practicing conversations in advance, memorising jokes, or copying gestures and phrases from TV shows or neurotypical peers to appear "normal."
- Suppressing stimming: Hiding natural stimming, such as hand-flapping, rocking, or fidgeting and replacing them with less noticeable or internal habits.
- Hiding Struggles: An individual with a learning disability pretending they understand a complex instruction or a joke they didn't catch, simply to avoid standing out or being judged.
- Enduring sensory overload: Silently pushing through intense distress caused by loud noises, bright lights, or crowds without complaining.
2. Why Do People Mask?
People mask because society has taught them that their natural way of being is not ‘normal’, or worse yet, ‘weird’.
Masking, for many, is a survival strategy to strive for social acceptance. It is a shield against stigma.
3. The Heavy Cost: Why Masking Exhausts the Brain
To the outside world, a person who is masking might look like they are coping perfectly. They might have a job, hold conversations, and seem completely relaxed. But beneath the surface, the brain is working in overdrive.
Masking requires constant, active cognitive effort.
The Long-Term Impact Includes:
- Burnout
- Loss of Identity
- Delayed Support
- Mental Health Crises
How We Can Support Safe "Unmasking"
We cannot expect neurodivergent adults to simply ‘take off the mask’ if the environment around them isn't safe. True inclusion means changing the environment and changing social perception.
Normalised stimming and natural communication styles could create a safe environment for people to behave in a way that comes naturally to them. Accessing therapies and requesting reasonable adjustments at work can create huge steps towards reclaiming lost identity.
Creating a safe space to ‘unmask’ may take different forms, but will require self-advocacy and leaning on support from others to uphold new standards of inclusion.
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